Psychological Infertility: how to deal with fear of reproduction?

According to statistics, about 15% of couples who want children suffer from infertility. Infertility can be primary and secondary, absolute and relative. It may be associated with hormonal disorders or diseases of the genital area. A special place among the various forms of infertility is occupied by infertility of unknown origin or idiopathic infertility. It is also called psychogenic or psychological infertility.

Psychological infertility is the inability of a woman to conceive and bear a child, the inability to bear a fetus – a miscarriage, the inability to conceive a second child with full gynecological and general physical health of the body. Such a diagnosis is difficult to establish. It often becomes a diagnosis of exceptions.

Psychological infertility is more common in women, but it is not uncommon in men either.

Most often, this diagnosis occurs in people aged 30 years and older, but this is most likely due to the fact that it is during this period that people consciously decide to become parents and are faced with various kinds of difficulties.

There is a certain type of people “prone” to psychological infertility: these are people who are characterized by anxiety and worry. Such people may fall ill “out of grief” and experience pain in one or another organ during acute experiences. Their body is already familiar with this mechanism and willingly grabs onto the usual scenario even if they try to get pregnant.

Psychological infertility can occur in various situations.

  1. Negative image of the mother in a woman with psychological infertility
  2. Experience of fatherlessness. Fear of repeating your mother’s scenario for your unborn child and remaining a single mother.
  3. Death of one of the parents in childhood.
  4. Violent experiences in childhood.
  5. Lack of formation of one’s own gender identity. The predominance of masculine attitudes.
  6. Experience of abortions, miscarriages, frozen pregnancies. Installation – I don’t want to experience this anymore if something like this happens.
  7. High level of control over your life.
  8. Social status – “not married”. When a partner does not want to formalize the relationship.
  9. Fear of loss of personal freedom at the birth of a child.
  10. Fear of parental incompetence.
  11. Intolerance of children’s behavior.
  12.  An intrapersonal conflict in a woman, for example, a woman strives to make a career and at the same time also wants to have a child. Such desires can be equal in intensity, but completely different in their direction. The resulting conflict makes it impossible to realize both of these goals.
  13.  Lack of trust in spouse. A woman may be afraid that her husband will leave her with the child, and during pregnancy, childbirth and the first years of the child’s life, the woman is very vulnerable. If she cannot rely on her husband, she herself (unconsciously) blocks the possibility of having a child.
  14. Unfavorable financial situation, lack of own housing, stable work.

The best ways to deal with psychological factors of infertility

When a couple thinks together about how to get rid of the psychological causes of infertility, they have a chance of success. First of all, it is worth understanding that now is not the time to blame each other.

The emergence of psychosomatic factors often occurs unconsciously. That is, both in a couple can actually suffer from infertility, and only at the subconscious level does the body resist this process.

Now based on our center you can cope with the problem either independently or with the help of a reproductive female coach in team with a qualified reproductologist simply online.  Help from outside gives a greater chance of success, and the result is achieved faster, but first you can try to cope with the problem yourself.

The following techniques will help with this:

  1. identify possible fears for yourself – get to know the “enemy” in person;
  2. understand for myself why I want a child;
  3. stop focusing on trying to get pregnant;
  4. think only about the positive;
  5. learn to relax;
  6. regard the period of infertility as an opportunity to prepare well for motherhood.

A correct view of what is happening has helped many women experience the joy of motherhood, and men become happy fathers.

For many women and men, these factors remain unconscious. If independent attempts to get rid of psychosomatic factors have not brought success, it is worth visiting a program reproductive coach session with psychological support perhaps together with your spouse. Only thorough and persistent long-term work with your own childhood experiences and traumatic moments will help you find out the true cause of psychological infertility.