In my practice, there is a category of women (actually a small one) who have gone through all the circles of hell with all possible protocols, changed more than one clinic and doctors, but faced the verdict: there are no eggs suitable to start a new life. 🤔
A dilemma arises and the choice of a lifetime: to stop or take someone else’s eggs. 🙃
Yes, this is a complicated topic of oocyte donation.
❓ It will be someone else’s child ❓The child will not look like me ❓I will not be able to love a child ❓Pregnancy will be different
You can also cite two dozen different beliefs that are quite well-argued.
As for doctor, it is also very difficult for me in this situation. Emotionally, I am always on the patient’s side. Because I am also a woman. 😉 And every time, with every patient, I analyze a hundred times whether we used all the chances for our own cells. (even in situations where objectively there are no more chances).
There are medical indications for oocyte donation:
📍 Absence of oocytes 📍Unsatisfactory quality of oocytes 📍Repeated cases of embryos not being suitable for embryo transfer after genetic testing.
And there is a moral and ethical boundary that a woman cannot cross. Then, contrary to common sense, we sometimes give one last chance. 😇
Unfortunately, psychological counseling for women with infertility is not very common in our country, so I also work as a psychologist at the reception.
That’s why I have experience. A woman must personally decide that she uses donor eggs. ❗️❗️❗️ In this case, the program will be successful.
When a woman sees two stripes on the testicle, she and everyone around her somehow magically forget whose oocytes they were. 🤰When the baby moves, it develops at the expense of the mother’s body – and there is a feeling that she is the closest.
And when the baby is born, mom will definitely see her features in him!👶🏻
The path to motherhood is very different. Everyone has their own, even this one…🧚♀️