In a leadership position, you cannot differentiate between leadership effectiveness and personal effectiveness. As a result, you start coming off quickly – whether aggressive or permissive, insecure or daring, trusting or manipulative. To become a more important leader, you have to be willing to hone your inner being and embark on a journey to personal mastery. This is the real path to excellent leadership.
This journey for leaders includes deepening their self-awareness, understanding and regulating emotional triggers that make them insecure, agitated or stressed, learning about their limiting beliefs and creating a healthy mindset, going beyond numbers and consequences. and being motivated by a sense of purpose. And taking more personal responsibility for your actions.
Such mastery not only makes leaders inspirational individuals, but it also directly contributes to their personal happiness, balance, and fulfillment.
Too often, we tend to externalize our challenges and believe that the source of our ineffectiveness or unhappiness lies outside of us. The change is within us. When we look within ourselves and begin to change, regardless of the people and circumstances around us, we begin to experience a different reality.
It’s not about being self-critical, shifting blame, or compromising; It’s the difference between looking out from the second floor of a skyscraper and the 50th floor – the view outside itself is the same, but we have a different perspective. When we change our attitudes, perceptions, beliefs, and behavior, we suddenly become disconnected from the world around us. Similarly, as we hold ourselves more accountable, we always tend to cause others to react differently as well.
Leaders lead busy lives. But unfortunately, one important thing that gets missed in this busy schedule is the time to reflect. Even many successful leaders do not have consistent reflective practice.
Creating time for reflection is important for busy professionals. As a leader, as much as you need regular exercise for your physical health, you need regular and structured practice of reflection for your emotional and mental well-being. Without reflective pauses, you may continue to react in the same conditioned way to different triggers – whether angry, anxious, agitated or stressed. Retreating and reflecting can help you build mental clarity and react with more mindfulness. When you calm your mind, you are more focused, creative, and productive and present in your relationships. This significantly increases your effectiveness.
The leaders are to create a structured and coherent reflective exercise. For example, you might consider starting a meditation practice, writing a journal, practicing positive affirmations and visualizations, and other ways to reflect daily.
In addition, there are many lessons to learn from building a healthy and resilient mindset, nurturing deeper relationships, finding greater balance, the skills to be happy, and discovering one’s life’s purpose and moving forward with that sense of purpose.